Yup you read the title right. BED REST. Yikes, I am half way which means I have half way to go and already on bed rest?
Well, things have gotten worse. I bleed continuously for a few days and started to pass some big clots so we got really worried. I was balling my eyes out to Trent saying, are you sure it isn't a baby? I was such a mess, the Dr later said, its called shock honey. No one can see that much blood over and over and be ok. Trent assured me it wasn't and so did the Dr. Our little guy is probably about 9 inches now so I would totally be in labor and know it too.
Anyways, Friday is my Dr's day out, so I called the on call Dr and she said to come in immediately. I couldn't stop crying. She came in and was so nice, she just hugged me and said they'd do everything they could to make this ok. She examined me and did a few tests and our little guy is still doing great so far. She said I had lost a lot of blood and that that and the clotting is not good. My blood levels had also come down a lot since just Wednesday when I saw the Dr so with everything combined she put me on bed rest and she means full bed rest at least for now. She said although our little guy is thriving this is a very critical and there are many risks. So I am not sure how long I will be on bed rest. I go for my big US next week so that will help determine what is going on and what needs to be done and really make sure that our baby is getting all the blood supply he needs.
I have been on bed rest for 2 1/2 days already and its killing me that I can't just get up and do things, I like them done my way and having a messy house, oh my. But I just have to let others do it and know its ok. My husband has been amazing. Just really meeting my needs and our kids needs, I've been lucky its been the weekend. He's been cleaning and putting them to bed and playing with them. See I really am not supposed to get out of bed to do anything. Also, my Gram came up all day Saturday and made dinner for two nights for us. She cooked, cleaned, ironed all Trent's shirts, and did windows. Wow, that was awesome. Now come Monday what am I supposed to do? Two kids at home? A new area and I still hardly don't know anyone? My ward is bringing meals next week and I've had some people call already to take the kids so we'll see what happens. Oh my. This is going to take a lot of patience on my part. The hardest part is feeling so helpless and lazy. See other than the bleeding I am fine. I am not in pain and am not sick. So to just lay there seems so weird. But I know I have to do it for me and the baby. I need my blood levels to come up and I need to get this to stop and I need my baby to make it to at least 30 weeks or more. So wish me luck. Oh and all of you that have been on bed rest please help. What did you do? What did you do with your kids? How do you survive?
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Oh April, I am so sorry! I am glad you have had so much help, but I bet it is just so hard. Let me know if you need anything. Everything will be ok. Just take care of that little baby and yourself.
i wish i was there to help you, i know that being here with my sister has helped tremendously. i am sure that everything will be ok and heavenly father will take care of you and the little guy. please let me know if there is anything i can do, if you are bored you can call me, being in bed is horrible when your sick, i cant imagine when you feeling (mostly) fine. keep us posted and you will definitely be in our prayers.
What does one do on bed rest? everything that you've been to busy to do. Crafts. I would knit hats, crochet mittens, cross stitch a pillow. Maybe you could have your kids put on a fashion show for you. That will occupy them and keep you entertained. I know my answers are kinda lame, but I would just try to keep my mind off of being there.
I'm so sorry that you have to do this. You and the baby are in our prayers.
YOU can do this ! and you need to behave so you don't have to end up in the hospital on bedrest ! I used to read a lot to the kids - we would do puzzles together on my bed, JD was about Hudson's age - he used to make me peanut butter sandwiches - - they used to bring toys on the bed with me - - sing songs - color - sam made hats and her birth announcement cards -she wrote in journal - I listened to books on tape - kids are very flexible - don't worry about them - - and LET your neighbors help - it gives them blessings as well as YOU ! GOOD luck - our prayers are with you - - LOVE YOU - - -
Just don't be afraid to ask for help from your neighbors- even if you don't know them that well. If you were in their position, would you think it was an inconvenience? No. You would want to help in a second. I bet they would too. Take it EASY and don't worry too much!
yikes bed rest, i know it doesn't help, but i'm sorry....good luck with everything though... :)
April,
I would love to come and help you as well. I can bring you dinner, watch kids, or just keep you company... let me know and its most important to take care of yourself, and don't STRESS everything will work out.. please let me know what I can do to help..
Oh, I wish we lived closer so we could help! I'm so sorry about everything, that must have been really scary. You're lucky you have a great husband and family! And it sounds like you have some good neighbors too. I'm sure you guys will be well taken care of - just be willing to let everyone help you! :)
I'm so sorry! Let me know if there is anything I can do! You should talk to Brooke or Sara they have both been on bed rest =-(
I am so sorry. I had to go on bed rest with Kire, but I didn't have any other kids then, so I don't know what I would do. Please let me know if there is anything I can do, and I hope everything will go good next week with the ultrasound.
Oh April, I am just getting tears reading this!! Ohhhh, big siiigh. I want to buzz right over and hug you like your doctor. Yes my mom is right-- you just stay put! I was talking to someone at work whose wife was on bedrest. She decided to do just a "little" vacuuming and went into labor at 26 weeks. Their little girl is 4 years old now! But whooooa nelly, let's definitely keep the little guy in there until 30 at least! I hope that it doesn't have to be permanent. My prayers are with you my friend! I would love to come teach you how to make booties to pass the time! Then you can sell them on Sweet Ruby. love Sarah
I seriously feel your pain. I was on bed rest with an I.V. and home health care for 6 months with my son. It is so hard. Honestly, take everyone up on their offers to help in any way they can. Divide up everything you need done and give people specific task lists. You can and will get through it and you will have a baby at the end, hooray!
Oh dear -- I'm so sorry, April! Bed rest is really not fun -- I was on bed rest for 3 months with Gray, so I feel your pain! But I didn't have other kids to take care of!! Just remember it is SO worth it to keep yourself and that baby guy SAFE!!! I know it's way hard, and you will be so tempted to get up "just for a minute" and do "one little thing" -- but seriously, it's so important to follow doctors' orders!! Just remember 'this too shall pass!' and it won't seem so bad when it's all over and you have your beautiful baby in your arms! Let me know if I can help with anything! Catch up on fun TV shows (I got hooked on Grey's Anatomy while on bed rest!), read some good books, get some fun coloring books (really, it's fun), and learn something new (I learned how to crochet, and made a baby blanket and lots of hats!) -- doing something makes you feel proactive! And if someone comes in to do your laundry, you can do the folding -- do the small things you can do from bed so you don't get overwhelmed from all the help :) Wow, this is a really long comment, sorry! But really, if I can help in any way, let me know! You're in my prayers!!
You are in my prayers sweetie. Take it easy as much as you can. I love you.
that is terrible i am so sorry and let me know if there is anything i can do. erik and i just work and go to school so we don't have like any free time to help out it seems! but we will do what we can , i'm sorry we love you.
Oh, I feel for you! I was on bedrest with my first at 29 weeks and had to stay down until 35 weeks. Since it was my first, I didn't have to worry about other kids. I watched all of Pride and Prejudice, Anne of Green Gables, 24, and other shows to pass the time. Plus, lots of magazine and internet time. I hated feeling perfectly healthy, but having to lay around and let things pile up everywhere. Good luck and know that "this too shall pass"
Oh April that is so not fun :( I can only imagine how hard that must be especially with kids at home.... Really I know I dont live up there but I would be more than happy to bring you guys dinner anytime. I am serious let me know when and if you need anything....
And hang in there... things hopefully will get better
Hi April,
I dont know if you have got enough advise or not but I can give you tons. I was on home bedrest with Kate for 6 weeks and hospitalized for 7 weeks. And with Addison I was on bed rest for 23 weeks. Yes it is TERRIBLE expecially with other kids. There will be ups and downs. And I did a lot of croqueting, knitting, cross stitching, playing on the computer, and a lot of TV. When I was 13 weeks along with Addison I too was Bleeding very heavy. I even had a nurse and the ER Doc tell me I was miscarring, then they did the utlra sound and the baby was still alive so he told me I would probably still miscarry. I was already dilated to a two and contracting. Later when I saw my OB, It turned out I wasn't miscarring, I was having a partial Placenta abruption. But my body never stopped contracting so I was on bed rest the rest of my pregnancy. I had a little table with coloring book, puzzles and toys right next to my bed for things for the kids to do. It was hard and there will be days I just cried. I sure hope it is temporary. If you need to talk feel free to call me.
Oh, April I am so sorry! I wish it weren;t so depressing, but it can be at times. Just remember that it will be way better to be on best rest than have this baby now. With the kid situation, I had to move in with my mom. She took care of Matt for me, but I know your mom works. I would start working out a trading system. Maybe babysitting for some of your SweetRuby items. I don't know if that would work or not. It is so hard and you are so helpless. Just try and keep yourself busy with craft projects, movies, journaling, etc. The time goes by much faster when you don't sit and think about it. Hang in there. I would be more than willing to take your kids for you a few times. Maybe trent could meet me on his way to work or something with them. Oh- and take up anyone who offers to take the kids. You need it! Love ya-- hang in there!
Oh April I am so sorry to hear about this. Please let me know if there is anything us Herefordshire girls can do for you!
I'm glad everything is o.k. You are so lucky to have family and friends to help you out. Make sure to stick to bed rest. I know how bad bed rest sucks. Congrats on the boy. Wish I could help out. love ya
I'm glad everything is o.k. You are so lucky to have family and friends to help you out. Make sure to stick to bed rest. I know how bad bed rest sucks. Congrats on the boy. Wish I could help out. love ya
You poor dear, I can't imagine, I'm so sorry. It's one thing to be on bed rest for your first baby, but when you have other kiddos to take care of that's tuff. Hang in there okay.
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